Let me ask you a couple of questions to start with.... Have you noticed more negativity appearing in your life? Does it seem wherever you turn there is some form of disaster happening whether it's from watching the news, reading the newspaper or even interacting with family, friends and society in general?
I have....and I've also noticed more unhappy people running on autopilot each day and not taking a short moment to become aware of their surroundings or other human beings that are in it.
I would love for us to return to the days where it was easy to talk to our neighbours and strangers, (I'm not that old, so it wasnt that long ago. ;) ) a time when it was unnatural not to be polite and people believed in looking out for their neighbours.
I believe that to belong in a society of fulfilled & happy people it all begins with us, our individual selves, we all need to start looking within and start loving ourselves again. We each need to be the change we wish to see in the world. (Ghandi)
Our thoughts have a very significant impact on the life we lead and the quality of the relationships we have with family members, friends, and society in general.
Knowing who we are is a very crucial aspect of healing growing and evolving into our best selves. How can we move forward if we are simply floating through life with no clear sense of what we stand for, our passions, our real strengths and what we refuse to tolerate?
We often hear of the unhappy Doctor who is only a Doctor because his/her parents decided that he/she needed to become the first Doctor in their family. Also, what about the hen pecked mama’s boy who dates a girl he cannot stand because it makes his mother happy?
Their situation is similar to the saying that 'if we do not know where we are going, any road will be the right one'. And better yet, ‘if we do not stand for something, we will fall for anything.'
In other words, if we do not understand ourselves, this includes our hopes, dreams, and aspirations, it will be easy for just about anyone to push us into a decision we will regret for the rest of our lives.
Living down a choice you regret, especially if you have to face its consequences on a daily basis, is going to be one of the hardest things you have ever had to do. Living with the burden of these choices is part of the reason many people are so sad and unkind and this reflects in our contribution to society.
When we take the time to understand who we truly are, the intricacies of our own personalities, we will have the keys to unlock our true potential. When you understand yourself, you are more likely to end up choosing a career that you love. And it is quite easy to be passionately driven to achieve great things when you are pursuing a career that you love.
Additionally, when you are at the top of your game, you will seek out the kind of partners and friends that will make you happy and thus bring out the best in you. They will understand the way you think and may very well think the same way you do too. These are the kind of people who will not laugh at your dreams or be jealous of your success. Being surrounded by loving, supportive people, will make you a kinder, happier and dare I say, more successful person.
Individuals who have a deep understanding of themselves, are often more decisive and optimistic. That is because these individuals are in full control of their life choices and they chose well.
They are more likely to see opportunities where others see setbacks. It also takes far less effort to be productive when you enjoy what you do. Additionally, the fact that you enjoy your career will give you a competitive edge and you will not depend on the praise of others for motivation.
I know that these may seem like ideal circumstances, where our choices are not dependent on the desires of our family and society, where we are all strong enough not to succumb to the pressure they will put on us to make a certain decision. But believe me, knowing and truly understanding yourself will open doors to opportunities you would have never seen coming otherwise. It will be easier for you to stand up to the pressures around you when you know without a doubt what the right decision for you will be.
I am not encouraging you to shrug your responsibilities of providing for your family, I am encouraging you to understand who you are and be true to who you are at all times. You will be much happier as a result and each individual that is happy will collectively contribute to a happier and healthy society. IMO. x