How To Keep Moving Forward When Life Gets You Down

“This world is your best teacher. There is a lesson in everything. There is a lesson in each experience. Learn it and become wise. Every failure is a stepping stone to success. Every difficulty or disappointment is a trial of your faith. Every unpleasant incident or temptation is a test of your inner strength. Therefore nil desperandum. March forward hero!” ~ Swami Sivananda

The actual thought of being able to move forward some days can be a huge struggle, especially when everything is met with a massive double brick wall.

Its all too easy to develop a negative mindset in certain situations like this but please don’t allow the challenges of life break you.

Giving up on your dreams may enter your mind regularly but find a way to keep going even if you have to do things differently.

Our modern world is certainly filled with challenges and obstacles which are out of our control but develop a mindset knowing that the world is not your enemy - Albert Einstein once said that “We all need to see the Universe as friendly.” It is so true, try to see the good in everyday people and life. Wise words from a wise man.

One of the best ways to manage life and its struggles is to develop an optimistic mindset.

What is an optimistic mindset?

In summary an optimistic mindset is when you can see the opportunity in times of difficulties, instead of seeing the difficulties in every opportunity.

An optimist doesn't walk in the rain and deny they are getting wet, they will choose to either dance and sing in the rain or to explore opportunities inside away from the rain.

A lot of the things we say to ourselves about ourselves can be negative, self-destructive, and undermining. This negative self-talk leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy – what we tell ourselves creates a mindset which makes our self talk come true in our actions.

Negative self talk can increase your unhappiness and it can make you unhealthy.  Fortunately, developing an optimistic mindset can do just the opposite – it can make you healthier, happier, more confident, and more competent - but the caveat is you also need to take action.

Realistic, practical optimism is a choice you can make on purpose to help you manage your life successfully. There is a set of characteristics that most optimists have in common, but through use of certain strategies naturally used by optimists, negative thinkers can turn themselves into optimists.

To be human means that we can change our habits and our patterns of behaviour. We can identify what makes us cope successfully and the things that impede that. We can analyze our own approach to life and challenge and replace our less successful coping methods.

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Here is a list of Characteristics often held by Optimistic People.

Commitment to Life - They believe that life is worth living. Absolutely it is. This belief gives them passion which feeds their optimism.

Flexibility - Flexible people can modify their habits to work with others, personally and professionally. They are usually cooperative so have reciprocal relationships with family, friends, and coworkers. A flexible way of thinking can open many resourceful ways of handling situations.

Resourcefulness - Optimistic people are resourceful. They have faced and thought through situations and know where to turn for support and how to find help when they need it.

Willingness to Risk - The optimist doesn't have to play it safe when it looks like a risk will pay off.

Acceptance of Personal Responsibility - Optimists have a realistic assessment of themselves. They are not victims, don't  make excuses, and learn from their mistakes.

Perspective - Optimists are realists who can see what is important and what is not. They work to solve the serious issues and ignore the inconsequential ones.

Openness - Optimists welcome new ideas and change. They realistically evaluate new information for use now or in the future.

Proactive Attitude - Optimists meet challenges with action - they're proactive rather than reactive. They aren't paralyzed by fear of failure or the unknown.

Attention - Optimists pay attention to the world around them. They listen to others' ideas rather than shutting them out.

All of these qualities can be practiced - life is a process and we are forever growing and evolving into the beings we are becoming.

Optimists realise that problems are temporary and can be resolved and that they are not a reflection of themselves. 

So remember that a problem or how you feel about it are both temporary,  

ask yourself,

'Am I interpreting a situation as being permanent or temporary?

Am I putting unnecassary blame on myself?

You are the architect of your life and you hold the key to choice.  Its not easy but with practice the process of developing an optimistic mindset can be yours.

Start today reconnect to your optimism.